Affirmations are one of the most amazing ways to change your thoughts, be grateful, change your view of yourself, and so much more.
I have used them in my life and when I do them consistently for an extended amount of time, I find that my perspective tends to change about whatever it is that I am affirming.
Why Use Affirmations
As women it is so important to believe in yourself despite conditions around you and how things might appear.
There are so many societal pressures telling us that in order to be beautiful we have to look a certain way, be a certain size, and dress a certain way, and then we will have worth.
But that couldn’t be further from the truth.
We have worth because we are who we are, not because our makeup is perfect, or because our hair turned out great that day. You are. You exist. And therefore, you are enough, you are worthy.
The Creator thought enough of you to create you specifically as you are and then bring you into existence to experience this beautifully amazing thing that we call life.
It is good to hear something good about yourself one time, but until you know like you know that those things are true in your heart and mind, encouraging and speaking positive statements to yourself is imperative. By doing so, you are not depending on someone else to tell you that you are enough or that you are beautiful just as you are, you are firm in your belief of that already because you have been affirming these thoughts and statements to yourself.
This is what creates a foundation for you to stand on.
Another reason to use affirmations is that they counter the negative things that you hear and see in society and on social media.
One important thing to remember is that things spoken, even if you don’t believe them in that moment, if spoken enough can eventually penetrate your mind and become your belief. So if you are consistently hearing and seeing someone else’s negative belief, that belief can eventually become your own if you are not countering it with your own positive belief for yourself.
For example, if you are constantly seeing that it is hard to find a good man, then you may not pay it much attention to begin with, but if you hear the same thing enough times it begins to penetrate your mind and cause you to start thinking that this is true.
However, thoughts become things, so if you begin to believe that it’s true, then that can start showing up in your reality. So affirming to yourself that you are enough for anything you want, and that you are worthy will begin to draw people to you who know your worth.
Do Affirmations Work
Because affirmations are repeated statements that you say over and over again to yourself, it is building that thought little by little, building that belief little by little until it becomes firm in your mind.
Think about the building of a house.
Initially it begins with a few bricks, then many bricks, then the framing of the inside of the house, then the drywall, to the paint, to adding the hardware and building out each room, to adding beautiful furniture, which turns into a beautiful home that someone purchases, lives in, and makes their own.
Affirmations work the same way. You begin with something in your mind that looks nothing like a belief, just statements that you are saying that feel good some days and other days may not feel like much. However, by continuing to speak and listen, you are continuing to build your house, your affirmation house that is until one day it is a big beautiful belief that is yours.
You own it and you know it. You get to live in it, and it would take a lot to tear down that house or that belief.
But as well as affirmations work for the positive, they also work for the negative. Little by little you hear a suggestion or a negative belief that can sneak up on you and now you find yourself thinking those thoughts and believing that negative thing that you didn’t believe or put much weight on before.
That’s why in addition to affirming you also have to protect your heart and the things that you listen to. This can mean unfollowing certain pages on social media, or choosing not to watch the news as much as you have before, or even taking a social media fast while you are building this belief if it tends to deeply be in conflict with the beliefs that you are trying to build in your life.
How to Use Affirmations
The most important thing is to just get started with your affirmations. Don’t get so caught up on doing it the right way. I have added the steps below that I do that help me tremendously with creating a belief and them working fast.
1. Remove the negative affirmation
Make a choice that you will no longer speak the negative affirmation out of your mouth. Speaking negativity only continues to draw more of the same into your world. It’s ok to vent once, but after that is done, it is time to move in the right direction.
An example of a negative affirmation is something like, “I’m too overweight to be attractive” or any other statement that speaks negatively of who you are.
Most of these thoughts and images of who we “should” be or what we “should” look like, were put into our mental by others through images seen and words spoken over and over again, which then turned them into our own belief.
After making a commitment to no longer speak negatively about yourself then..
2. Keep it Short and Sweet
Affirmations are most absorbed by the mind when they are short and sweet. It’s easy for your mind to remember and repeat on autopilot, even when you aren’t consciously speaking it yourself.
Think about it like this, how long does it take for you to remember 2 sentences or longer, vs. how long it takes to remember a few words or a short sentence? When you remember, your mind takes over and puts it on repeat for you throughout the day. So something as simple as “I am loved” can be very powerful.
3. State new affirmation in the positive
Whatever affirmations you choose to focus on should be stated in the positive, such as, “I am my ideal body weight”, “I love the way I look”, “I am beautiful”, “I am confident”, “I am successful”. The more you speak this, the more you will believe it, which will then cause you to act on the thing that you believe.
We ultimately act on whatever we believe about ourselves. If we believe that we are unworthy of love, we will ultimately act on that, whereas, if we believe we are worthy of everything good and worthy of a beautiful relationship, we will then attract and require that.
We will no longer allow others to treat us as though we are unworthy because we know that we are worth more.
4. Keep the visual of the affirmation in front of your face
It is very common for us to begin something one day, only to have completely forgotten about it a few days later.
This is why it is important to keep the visual of the affirmations you are speaking in front of your face. This will not only help you to remember to speak your affirmation, but also will plant those words in your visual and thus in your mind.
Whether you realize it or not, your mind reads the words that you see before you consciously realize that you have done or are doing so. Therefore, even if you forget to read your affirmation aloud for the day, you are still imprinting your subconscious mind with the words that you have read.
For this reason I have created a printable with all of the affirmations listed for you to print and put up for you to see on a daily basis. Choose the affirmation/s you want to focus on and put them up for you to see on a daily basis.
5. Speak out loud with feeling
Beliefs become stronger, work faster, and are brought into your reality by feeling, The more you speak your affirmations with feeling, the quicker you will believe that you are this statement that you are speaking.
Start now and speak these out loud with intense feeling (even if you don’t believe it right now, it’s ok do it anyway):
“I AM BEAUTIFUL”
“I AM WORTHY”
Before you know it, these statements that you once made yourself speak as an affirmation before you believed they were true, are now rolling off your tongue and are now beliefs that you feel in your heart.
6. Use the mirror
This is a great way to make yourself feel what you are speaking. Look right at yourself in the mirror and speak your affirmation. Now I have to admit, this does feel a little uncomfortable the first few times you do it, but keep doing it.
How many times does someone else affirm us and make us feel so good.
7. Repeat often
Repetition and consistency is the key to accomplishment. Become committed to changing how you think.
Write down the “Why”. Why are you saying this affirmation? Is it to feel better about your self image, to love yourself more, to feel successful and be successful, what is your Why? This will drive you to continue to repeat your affirmations on a daily basis.
Repeat the affirmations that you choose every single day for a minimum of 21 days. It’s pretty common to hear that 21 days creates a new habit, and it definitely can and probably will! However, if you continue to repeat the affirmation even longer than 21 days, you are making sure that it is a firm belief in your mind.
Take about 5 mins a day and look in the mirror or wherever you see fit, and repeat your affirmation with feeling.
It’s best to do this when you first wake up because that is when your mind is the most impressionable. When you begin it might not feel like you are feeling or believing much, but as the days go on, you will begin to feel the true results of committing to repeating your affirmation on a daily basis.
It’s ok if you forget a few days, don’t beat yourself up, just start again and continue until you feel that the belief is firmly planted in your mind.
50 I Am Affirmations for Women
- I Am Loved
- I Am Confident
- I Am Whole
- I Am Unique
- I Am Bold
- I Am Strong
- I Am a Doer
- I Am a Boss
- I Am Courageous
- I Am Limitless
- I Am Worthy
- I Am Happy
- I Am Secure
- I Am Healthy
- I Am Positive
- I Am Blessed
- I Am Grateful
- I Am Beautiful
- I Am Successful
- I Am Fearless
- I Am Compassionate
- I Am Loving
- I Am Focused
- I Am a Giver
- I Am Smart
- I Am Motivated
- I Am Independent
- I Am Supported
- I Am Uplifting
- I Am Supportive
- I Am Passionate
- I Am a Dreamer
- I Am Trusting
- I Am Powerful
- I Am Intentional
- I Am Thoughtful
- I Am Kind
- I Am Sacred
- I Am Valuable
- I Am Resilient
- I Am Important
- I Am Deserving
- I Am Special
- I Am Happy
- I Am Joyful
- I Am Unstoppable
- I Am Sexy
- I Am Mighty
- I Am Strong
- I Am Amazing
You are already all of these things. They already exist within you. You just have to realize that they are true, and repeating these affirmations will help you to do just that. Don’t forget to get the printables of the affirmations above!
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